Wednesday, January 28, 2015

The Soapbox Post

The title was a warning. You've officially been warned...
Ok, I make it a point, generally, to stay away from discussions on social media about political or social "hot topics". This particular one has been around for a while, which makes me way late to the game. It's also quite possible that no one cares to hear my opinion on the matter, but this is my tiny piece of the internets and I get to say whatever I want. Murica.
I actually have friends on both sides of this particular issue, so I do care about how I come across when I talk about it. I really don't want to sound obnoxious or belittling, but at the same time I want people to understand why I feel like I'm right. I mean, why would we have opinions on anything if we didn't think we were right, right? So yeah, I may lose some friends in 3...2...1...
Here goes... Vaccinate your kids. Please. This should not be a debate. I don't care if you do a delayed schedule or what. Just do it. Let's pretend that autism isn't even a part of the equation. One, because it shouldn't be. And two, because there seems to be a more vocal "anti-vax" voice as of late and these (I can optimistically assume, well intentioned) people are the ones that I just can't seem to sympathize with in any capacity. Hashtag sorry, not sorry.
This whole idea that vaccines are bad because they have so many chemicals and ingredients that most of us can't pronounce and why would we put these things into our bodies when we have no idea what it can do to us long term. Listen, I hear you but, how do I put this nicely... I don't care. I do it because - Science. And so should you.
Thankfully, for most of the people who complain about the icky things they'd be injecting into their babies were they to choose to vaccinate them, these will be the only chemicals they'll have to worry about purposefully giving to their kids. Truly, this makes me very happy. But please, if you would allow me to wax dramatic for a second: Talk to me when you have to watch someone inject your child with enough poison to literally kill them for the very purpose of saving their life. And then, because of that, this child has no immune system at all and must rely on everyone else's vaccinated children to keep them healthy until they themselves are able to receive those same vaccinations and, you know, not die. 
This is when we really need to weigh the good with the bad. And there is a lot of bad. A LOT. A few examples: diarrhea, constipation, chronic pain, loss of hearing, loss of sight, loss of organ function (which one? It's anyone's guess really), loss of fertility, increase risk of other forms of cancer. Then there's the good: no more drugs, no more toxic chemicals secreted through the skin, no more hair loss and vomiting and dehydration, no more feeding tube, no more daily blood draws, removal of cancer from the body, a healthy child, a living child. None of these are guaranteed. The good or the bad. Just possibilities. Question marks. Do you risk it? Let me answer that for you. Yeah, you do. You do your own research. You ask questions. Lots of them. You can even consult other medically trained people in other hospitals, in other states, in other countries. And then you trust the medical community to do what they have been trained to do. To tell you the truth. To use the information they've gleaned from years and years of research and experiments and testing. And you let them do their job. Because sometimes the good outweighs the bad in a bigger way than just icky chemicals, a sore, chubby leg, and a low grade fever. 
And here's the thing, we do know some long term effects of vaccines. Let's start with complete eradication or significant decrease in several awful diseases that our generation never even had to experience because of, you guessed it, vaccinating kids. I'd also like to give some attention to the developing world who would give anything to have the very vaccines that people here are shunning because they don't want to have to weigh the good with the bad. They just want the good. Sigh. Don't we all.

Sunday, November 30, 2014


So, it's been a while. I don't know what to do with this thing anymore if I'm being honest. I've considered deleting it. But I don't want to do that because it started as a journal of my experience with Lila and I can't erase that. I've thought about really diving in and becoming an actual "blogger", but it's too much of a commitment and I'm not that interesting. And since we're in the spirit of being honest here, most bloggers aren't that interesting.

So, blog and I are at a bit of a crossroads. 

Probably what's going to happen is exactly this. I'll forget about blog for a while and then I'll remember blog and write for a while until I forget again. 

The goings on: I start school in January. I've been sitting on the idea of becoming an RN for about 4 years. I put it off because it never seemed like a good time. Whatever that means. It turns out no time is a good time when you have kids, so here goes. I have a few prerequisites to take. Mostly sciences because, if you can believe it, Theatre majors don't need a lot of sciences. It'll be kind of a slow process--one or two classes at a time and becoming a CNA before I can apply to the actual nursing program. The program itself is 5 semesters. It all feels a bit overwhelming, but I've been a student before. I imagine it's like riding a bike... Except with half a brain. 

I'm already starting to feel a little isolated. I'm also probably definitely doing it to myself. There are about three people that I actually talk to on a regular basis. They've been really helpful as I've yammered on and on about whether or not I should do this. The only other thing I'm willing to talk about these days is Serial. If you haven't listened to it, do it. It's fascinating. So yeah, I'm definitely doing it to myself. 

I haven't been sleeping well. Which sucks. I love to sleep. I'll think about my worries and things I have to get done, but then I'll run out of that stuff. It doesn't matter though, the brain won't shut off. It starts to reminisce. Relive experiences. Create experiences that didn't actually happen. Say things I've always wanted to say, but didn't have the chance. Sometimes it's stupid stuff, like the lady that yelled at me in the McDonald's drive thru for cutting her off when I didn't actually cut her off. I still have a ton of things left to tell her. See? It's a real problem. But I do actually have more important conversations in my head as well. I've had some really transformative relationships in my life and many of them continue on, but others haven't exactly lasted. Still, it's been interesting to think about the different ways that their importance hasn't diminished. Memories made. Lessons learned.  Those are the conversations I'd really like to have. And then maybe, if all goes well, we could talk about Serial. 

Wednesday, June 4, 2014

A Year Round Summer

Having kids in year-round school makes it hard to have a real summer.
But, we're making it work.
We try to get to the pool after school a few times a week.
And Alice actually has a real summer for the last time, so we have to make it count.

This is an immediate party in our front yard.
Come over and join us.

Exploring with adorable and handsome friends.

Lila taking her job seriously.
I'd normally be wary of a lifeguard wearing a floatie, but I trust her.

This girl loves the pool.

We're having one whether school lets us or not.

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Kickstart My Heart

The long and short of it is that Ben started this project for fun and now he's got a distributor to sell his album. 
If you can/want to help, we'd be grateful.
Don't worry, there's something in it for you.

You can help by clicking that little 'K' or just by going HERE.

Monday, March 24, 2014

Sharing Talents

I am surrounded by talented people.
I love it.
I have friends and family that can do amazing things.
They can draw, paint, sing, play instruments, dance, make jewelry, sew, cook, speak other languages, photograph, design, build, write poetry, speak eloquently, have a keen sense of style, create something out of nothing, the list goes on and on.

I am not super talented.
I like to think that I'm like Albert Einstein. 
You know, "I have no special talents. I am only passionately curious."
The main difference here being that he was a genius.
This isn't a woe is me post at all, but I really can't do any of the things I listed above. 
There are, however, things that I do well. 
I maybe just wouldn't consider any of them marketable skills.
Here's some stuff I can do:

Binge watch a TV show
Decipher soda brands by smell alone
Make sarcastic comments
Get what I need at Target and then 20 more things
Apply a movie or TV quote to any occasion
Drive, talk on the phone, eat, and scold children simultaneously
Load a dishwasher with precision 
Not vomit (18 years and counting)
Be a source of an unhealthy amount of pop culture
Control my eyes independently
Consume large quantities of soda
Memorize song lyrics
Pick things up with my toes
Write lists

I have often attempted to cultivate a new skill.
But I'm kind of lazy, so if I'm not immediately amazing at something, I tend to bail.
I'd rather "sharing talent" mean that you gave some of yours to people who are lacking.

I can't do this either.